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| Jonny Justice | Jul 15 2010, 03:29 PM Post #1 |
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I'm just doing this to get it over with. I'd use other expletives in the following, but I'm censoring myself as not to get banned. Thi I'm so freaking tired of feeling so neglected by one person. Dammit, it's not my fault that I fell for you, and you accepted it, and returned it, but then suddenly after months of fighting with your "equal" other, everything suddenly was okay with you again. I got left in the dust. That was almost 2 years ago, you say you're happy, and yet you still lead me on and make me miserable every day of my life. I've given you sh**, I've gotten him out of sh**, I've gotten you out of it to. And yet, I can't even count on you as a friend, and it's been that way for almost a year now. You never, ever seem to "have time" for me. But yet, you post all over facebook and other social sites what you do did with whoever every day. You claim your busy when I ask you when you're free next, then I read that you're hanging out with someone even though I asked you a week before if you were free. You'll claim you're just stressed with work and school, well I've got my problems too, but I MAKE TIME FOR YOU. I MAKE TIME TO COMFORT YOU. But I guess that's what nice guys get. While you have fun with someone else, I get to sit in my manic depressive state, and let my introspective thoughts tear me apart. Even though you make me miserable every day, I still find some reason to care about you, and you're the first thing I think about in the morning, and the last thing I think about at night, and even though as I sit their thinking what you could be doing to or for or with someone else as I sit their pondering why you hurt me so much, I still care about you. I put you first, I always let you know how much you mean to me, and it doesn't seem to mean anything to you. You want to be with a drugged up bum who isn't going to amount to anything in life, fine, be my guest, I couldn't give to sh**s anymore, but just know how much I tried to show you that you could have what you want, and know that all of the dreams that you have, about a nice house and a family friend home and everything else can't happen when you are with the number one drug dealer in town. You've used me, you've neglected me, and you've blamed me for so much more than I have done. I'm tired of it. I don't even know what to say to you, and I can't say anything to you, because even though you put me through so much stuff I don't deserve, I can't stand the thought of hurting you. God, it feels good to get that off of my chest. |
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| Mshkote | Jul 15 2010, 03:38 PM Post #2 |
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Good show, old bean. But yeah, I'm pretty sure we've all been here at least once. Replace a few words here and there and I have a very similar story. By the way, thanks to your channel on the 'Tube, I was able to finally figure out the history about the long lost Megaman Xtreme 2. I'd been wondering about that game for years. I use to play it everyday before school back in like 2nd and 3rd grade. And the only way to go was Zero, of course. Edited by Mshkote, Jul 15 2010, 03:38 PM.
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| browland1 | Jul 15 2010, 03:51 PM Post #3 |
 
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I've been in this situation many times myself. Someone you care about, perhaps even have romantic interest in, leads you on and shows you no respect or consideration. As much as you want to give them a piece of your mind, it's hard because you can't stand the thought of removing them from your life (even through mentally you know it's the healthy thing to do). Ultimately, you need to devote your time and attention to people who will reciprocate. If you have a friend who is only around when she needs something, and never around when you need her, that's not a friendship and it's entirely one-sided. I know people like that and, despite how much it hurt at the time, I have ended things when it came to that point. Sometimes it made them wake up and realize that I am a friend worth keeping and they need to stop taking me for granted, other times they didn't and things stopped there. You're certainly better off in the long run without people like that in your life. Look at it like this: friendship and relationships are supposed to be a positive force in your life, not something that adds stress and hurt feelings. That's my point of view, anyway. |
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| Jonny Justice | Jul 15 2010, 04:39 PM Post #4 |
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Once again, browland, you have great advice. I just don't know how to go about kicking someone out of my life like that, you know? |
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| browland1 | Jul 15 2010, 05:06 PM Post #5 |
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It's very difficult, that's for sure, but the alternative is to keep allowing her to string you along and you'll get more and more frustrated with the situation. Partly at her for being the way she is, and partly at yourself for tolerating it. It sounds like like dependency than real friendship, since you're putting up with behaviour that is totally unjustifiable. The way I deal with these situations is to do some weaning; I reach out to the person less frequently, "hide" their status updates from my Facebook news feed, and become used to having less contact with the person. This gives them a chance to miss me and reach out rather than me having to go to them. If communication fizzles out, at least it's gradual and less of a shock to the system as it would be if things ended abruptly. Things like this are easy in theory and tough in practice, so it's hard to tell what the best thing to do is. What seems very clear is that this friendship is borderline toxic and something needs to change, perhaps more on your attitude towards the friendship. The less you depend on her, the less likely you are to feel let down. |
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| Xsleepyx3 | Jul 15 2010, 06:04 PM Post #6 |
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its good to release all this shit you have inside. been there done that to. i've had to let go of ppl i didnt want to do becuase i consider them "my friends" but it shit happens. this world we live is filled with people that take things for granted and don't really see who actually cares for you or what you do. you feel me? but hey keep your head up, keep things smooth and simply and it will pay off. trust me. -sleepy |
  
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| KingJames88 | Jul 15 2010, 06:57 PM Post #7 |
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It may seem difficult at first to kick someone out of your life like that, but once you find a way to do it, you'll see it's not too bad really, and you'll see there are tons more people in the world. |
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| eSkilliam | Jul 15 2010, 07:10 PM Post #8 |
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I honestly thought I treated you pretty nice... Oh, Wait... You... Weren't talking about me... 
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| Andsy | Jul 16 2010, 01:27 AM Post #9 |
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HERE IS MY ADVICE. I DREW YOU A PICTURE. 1, Nice guys never win. Ever. Women find them too soppy / needy, 2, you must do a silly face. 3, grab a bunch of buddies, / make some new ones 4 / 5, go to gym and or bar / social events if you're under 18. 6, revel in your awesomeness as you become MORE awesome, and she realises that she's deeply unhappy, and tries to fill that void with cake, twilight and twinkies. I've never tried a twinkie, are they nice? ANYWAY. This happened to me. Stop being a 'nice guy'. No one likes him. Make yourself happy, and in time, she'll see what an idiot she was. By that time you'll be way past her, and dating two insanely hot twins who have a penchant for gaming and listening to whatever music you like. OR YOUR MONEY BACK. Edited by Andsy, Jul 16 2010, 01:29 AM.
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| Andsy | Jul 16 2010, 01:32 AM Post #10 |
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Oh, and I'm pissed. Instead of playing DQ9, I was busy drawing you a god damn stupid picture >:| |
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| Nathan | Jul 16 2010, 01:35 AM Post #11 |
 
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I feel like the same thing somewhat not every line, but most of it. This was recently. I just regretfully moved on. I thought I had a huge chance at something good, but I guess not :/ Still keep thinking of that one thing I could of did, but didn't. Or if I didn't say that one thing at first. But a well. Shit Happens Anyways good luck on the future man. Edit: Andsy I commend you on that post, true creative genius. Edited by Nathan, Jul 16 2010, 01:38 AM.
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| sdcpro | Jul 16 2010, 01:36 AM Post #12 |
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There are no words to describe the awesomeness of Andsy's post above me. But he's right. If she's choosing to to go down the wrong path then that's her choice and you've already done what you can. It really is easier if you just go out and go to social events and find someone else who is more awesome than her. Sitting around and moping about it just makes you depressed, which doesn't get you anywhere :/ Edited by sdcpro, Jul 16 2010, 01:36 AM.
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| Jonny Justice | Jul 16 2010, 06:17 AM Post #13 |
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Andsy, I love you. Sidenote. She just got internet. First thing she does is put up a picture on facebook with her boyfriend, because she knows how upset I am. That's just dandy, you can go to hell too.  This feel so nice. I haven't had a place to vent about this in a long time.
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| Andsy | Jul 16 2010, 06:29 AM Post #14 |
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Dude, paste the picture here. Let us rate her - if she's worth the hassle or not. If all else fails, I'll just draw MSPaint mustaches and monocles on it. I love me some monocles :| |
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| Jonny Justice | Jul 16 2010, 06:31 AM Post #15 |
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I'm not going to sink that low. I've got some dignity and respect left in me...though not much. |
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| Andsy | Jul 16 2010, 06:42 AM Post #16 |
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In restrospect, a very sensible decision young padawan. Unfortunately this didn't stop me googling 'wendy', as I imagined that this is what this birds name must be. The results... Were terrifying. 
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| Jonny Justice | Jul 16 2010, 07:07 AM Post #17 |
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I've pretty much told her what's on my mind now, and I'm deleting my MySpace (no one uses that anymore anyway) deactivating my facebook, and pretty much the only two sites I'll still be visiting are this one, and my twitter for quite a while. I'm just getting away from it all. |
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| Andsy | Jul 16 2010, 07:27 AM Post #18 |
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Dude, don't give her the satisfaction. If you honestly don't use Facebook, I'd ditch it anyway. But if you do use it, just block her. You're bigger and better than this laddy :/ |
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| metcar | Jul 16 2010, 07:46 AM Post #19 |
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most of what was said sounds like a person i know.and yeah the best thing is to just stop feeding her emotional greed.
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| browland1 | Jul 16 2010, 09:55 AM Post #20 |
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I agree that ditching your Myspace and Facebook pages strictly on her account is not the best move. Perhaps just blocking her is the right move, especially when you use your accounts for keeping in touch with other people. |
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| Jonny Justice | Jul 16 2010, 03:38 PM Post #21 |
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It's something I've wanted to do for MYSELF for a long time. I spend too much time on those sites as it is. Might as well cleanse myself of what I want to now all at one time. |
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| S1r Panda | Jul 17 2010, 10:02 AM Post #22 |
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uhh i would really want to say something comforting but i dont think my english skills would be good enough to make my point. |
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| Jonny Justice | Jul 17 2010, 05:36 PM Post #23 |
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I basically told her what I said up there, condensed, and told her to get back to me when she has a response. Haven't heard from her since. |
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