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I have a problem....; its about collecting
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NanoStar	Aug 19 2010, 10:57 PM Post #1
New User Posts: 6 Group: Members Member #2,625 Joined: Aug 19, 2010	So i have this problem, so let me start off I like collecting old video games and video game merchandise.(like plushes, figures, all that stuff) you would think that isnt a problem...will your wrong. My mom dosent like me collecting at all. (especilly plushes.) every time when she comes in to my room she talks about have my room looks awful and how one day she's gone throw out all my video game merchandise and sell my games. she also talks about how its a waste of time and money and how im to old to be doing this. i dont know what to do about this. i like collecting but i dont like my mom being ashamed of me for doing something i like.... what do i do..



n8great321	Aug 19 2010, 11:08 PM Post #2
Level 4 Posts: 305 Group: Members Member #811 Joined: May 30, 2009	from a practical standpoint, if you're living under her roof it could be hard to keep up the collecting if she doesn't like it. That's just how it is sometimes, unfair. However, ideally I'd like to say that life is too short to worry about what other people think, especially if it's over something as trivial as collecting. You're not out selling drugs or killing people, it's about as benign of a hobby as you can get. It's unfortunate that not everyone has family or friends that support the hobby, but ultimately, if it makes you happy and you can do it responsibly, I can think of 10,000 things a lot worse than collecting game-related stuff. Best solution, get your own place so no one can tell you how to live lol. That is, unless she's still helping you financially at that point.
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ap3xultima	Aug 20 2010, 05:25 AM Post #3
The Homeless Wizard Posts: 200 Group: Members Member #1,703 Joined: Mar 14, 2010	Show her the video of the half naked man showing off his Neo Geo collection, hopefully she'll think differently of you
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browland1	Aug 20 2010, 10:38 AM Post #4
Posts: 3,481 Group: Admins Member #719 Joined: May 12, 2009 Currently Playing Bloodborne.	This is one of those classic "parents just don't understand" moments that every teenager goes through. I've been defending my love of gaming for years to people who say that it's childish, a waste of time, pointless, etc. Ultimately, it's your passion and you should stick with it regardless of what other people say. This is tougher when it's your parents who are breathing down your neck about it. What I would do is see if there is a way I could make it more acceptable in their eyes. If all you do is play video games rather than going out with friends, exercising, or if your marks in school are suffering, your mom's distaste for gaming might be more out of concern. If you're not striking a good balance with gaming and other activities, try doing so and see if her attitude improves. If none of the above applies, perhaps you should have an honest talk with your mom about why you like gaming and how important it is to you. If you are doing well in school and gaming is not affecting your life in negative ways, you should be able to convince her that your gaming habits are harmless.



KingJames88	Aug 20 2010, 11:02 AM Post #5
Ds Games! Posts: 3,129 Group: Moderator Member #511 Joined: Apr 6, 2009	If you don't mind me asking, how old are you that she says your too old for it? I'm willing to wager your a good deal younger than a fair amount of the people here, and it always helps if your old enough to get a job. This way you can spend parts of your pay check instead of the money you get from relatives and elsewhere.
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KeeL246	Aug 20 2010, 02:15 PM Post #6
Posts: 1,711 Group: Founding Members Member #15 Joined: Jan 27, 2009	Ask her if she'd prefer you spend your money on drugs and alcohol, maybe then she will realize collecting video games is a good thing.



NanoStar	Aug 20 2010, 03:56 PM Post #7
New User Posts: 6 Group: Members Member #2,625 Joined: Aug 19, 2010	KingJames88 Aug 20 2010, 11:02 AM If you don't mind me asking, how old are you that she says your too old for it? I'm willing to wager your a good deal younger than a fair amount of the people here, and it always helps if your old enough to get a job. This way you can spend parts of your pay check instead of the money you get from relatives and elsewhere. Im 16 and i had a job but i just recently quit. my mom would never give me money to collect.



NanoStar	Aug 20 2010, 04:05 PM Post #8
New User Posts: 6 Group: Members Member #2,625 Joined: Aug 19, 2010	Thanks for your help guys. I think im gonna sit down and talk with my mom. but if things dont go well.......



KingJames88	Aug 20 2010, 05:01 PM Post #9
Ds Games! Posts: 3,129 Group: Moderator Member #511 Joined: Apr 6, 2009	See if you could find a new job so you have at least a little bit of leverage, something along the lines of setting aside a small portion of your check towards gaming and saving up the rest. That will make it more bearable for your mother I think.
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Direngrey911	Aug 21 2010, 12:02 PM Post #10
Tanzbefehl! Posts: 1,012 Group: Members Member #1,678 Joined: Mar 11, 2010	KingJames88 Aug 20 2010, 05:01 PM See if you could find a new job so you have at least a little bit of leverage, something along the lines of setting aside a small portion of your check towards gaming and saving up the rest. That will make it more bearable for your mother I think. better yet, set aside some money and move out!
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bulldoggchamp	Aug 22 2010, 02:50 PM Post #11
Level 1 Posts: 43 Group: Members Member #142 Joined: Jan 27, 2009	box your stuff up and store so it is out of sight.....then when you move and get your own place down the road you can display all your glory!!
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Eskimoninja149	Aug 28 2010, 10:57 PM Post #12
Level 2 Posts: 66 Group: Members Member #2,481 Joined: Aug 6, 2010	tell her its what you love doing and that she should be supportive of anything you are interested in doing. just talk nicely to her and everything should be fine. Edited by Eskimoninja149, Aug 28 2010, 11:03 PM.
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Overtimee	Aug 29 2010, 05:32 AM Post #13
Run! Posts: 1,434 Group: Members Member #1,313 Joined: Oct 10, 2009	I've got similiar problems with my Mom. She also thinks it's a waste of money and time, and such stuff. Just don't lissen to her. Continue collecting, spend your money on it, don't care. I remeber when i tried to explain something to my Mom. She thinks Video Games suck, but she loves Movies and Music. I tried to explain her that Video Games are kinda a Mix of both. In her point of view crying for a Movie, or a Song is normal. Crying for a Video Game? Whaat? I tried to explain her thousands of time, but she can't understand. Those are moments where people just talk without knowing shit. There will always be people that do that, but you have to live with that, at least, i do.
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Michael	Aug 29 2010, 10:50 AM Post #14
Posts: 670 Group: Founding Members Member #57 Joined: Jan 27, 2009	Yea i would just suggest sitting down and having a talk with your mom. Its your hobby and there is nothing wrong with it.
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IdioMeme	Aug 30 2010, 07:02 AM Post #15
Mad Scientist Posts: 69 Group: Members Member #2,570 Joined: Aug 13, 2010	browland1 ftw. Excellent advice. VG collecting, especially when you're younger is about balance. Often, parents have a preconception regarding what they view as beneficial for their kids, and sometimes when these preconceptions conflict with your interests, contentions such as what you're experiencing result. Trying to rationalize you're collection probably isn't going to work (collecting in general is irrational), but you can always try explaining that it is something that you just enjoy. Also, be sure you understand the root of the issue. Is the real issue that you're collecting, or how you're collecting is effecting your life and hers. For instance, is your collection displayed well, so that it looks like a collection; or is it just strewn about, looking like a big unorganized mess? Is your collecting a passion, or compulsion? As browland1 pointed out, you'll want to make sure that you demonstrate that you're collecting isn't all-consuming, and you're still making time for other things. Remember, it's about balance. I wish you luck, and hopefully you'll be able to resolve the issue with your mom.



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