Dealing with a friend who "Has no time", THE SEQUEL! Written by Jonny Justice

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Dealing with a friend who "Has no time", THE SEQUEL! Written by Jonny Justice
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Jonny Justice	Dec 1 2010, 06:58 PM Post #1
Level 7 Posts: 1,375 Group: Members Member #1,866 Joined: Apr 3, 2010	Remember a few months ago when I posted about having a friend that I felt was using me? Well... Guess what? Same thing is happening again! This time, I'm not hoping to work it out. I'm hoping to let her know exactly how wrong it is, and then ending the friendship, but I'm not going to do this blindly. So anyone have any experienced with a similar situation? How did you handle it? How should I handle it?
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KingJames88	Dec 1 2010, 07:01 PM Post #2
Ds Games! Posts: 3,129 Group: Moderator Member #511 Joined: Apr 6, 2009	I think it helps a lot if you have more confidence. People can sniff out when your feeling a little down or not to confident and sadly people take advantage of that. I think people that would take advantage of you wouldn't be attracted to you if they see your not the type to deal with any nonsense. Let her know your nobody to be taken advantage of, and in fact, she should be grateful your even talking to her. Even if you don't feel this way inside, see if you can act like it, just without being too arrogant. Have a "I'm too good for you" type of attitude with these people.
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VirtualBoyGamerShow	Dec 1 2010, 07:08 PM Post #3
The Virtual Boy Gamer Posts: 637 Group: Members Member #2,012 Joined: May 16, 2010	I have been in a situation like this before. The best thing to do is tell your friend the problem. In my situation, we decided to end the friendship, but then we relized we used to be such good friends, it was kind of sad to end the friendship like that. If you were really good friends with this person, then I suggest trying to work it out. If this is a person who has tortured you a lot and is constantly being a problem, maybe ending the friendship would be best. Edited by VirtualBoyGamerShow, Dec 1 2010, 07:08 PM.
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browland1	Dec 1 2010, 11:36 PM Post #4
Posts: 3,481 Group: Admins Member #719 Joined: May 12, 2009 Currently Playing Bloodborne.	My attitude towards relationships, friendship or otherwise, is that they should be a positive force in your life and not suck your energy. If this friend makes you angry when you think about her, but you still come running whenever she calls, you might have either a dependency on her or perhaps a crush. It's unhealthy and you set a precident by allowing it to happen. When she acts selfishly, she might not even clue into it because it's the status quo with you. I've been in two such situations and they literally sucked the life out of me; I was angry at them all the time, except when I was with them and the false smile came out. I cared deeply for these girls but I knew that the friendships were toxic. You can't expect her to change because she is who she is, so you're the one who needs to make some changes. What I did was slowly cut them out of my life. I made myself unavailable, delayed returning calls and effectively "weaned" off them. It was hard and I always kind of hoped they would miss me and come running. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? Well, they didn't and that confirmed what I cognitavely knew - I was a convenience friend to them. It got easier with time and I made a pledge to myself that I would only devote time to people who reciprocate. By the sounds of it, this friendship is more aggrivation than anything else and nobody should put up with that. If she doesn't appreciate you, she doesn't deserve you. I say start phasing her out.



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